| Most people wondering what does the Bible say | | | | especially important. |
| about marriage have probably heard one of two | | | | If you are in the least bit concerned with what |
| things. Either that Moses allowed a man to divorce | | | | the Bible says about marriage then you should put |
| his wife with a letter of dismissal or what God | | | | aside your own selfish desires and think about |
| joins let not man put asunder. | | | | what is best for your entire family. Whether that |
| Interestingly, it says both. | | | | includes children or just the two of you. |
| Jesus, however, explained that. God allowed the | | | | Even if you rushed into the marriage that is not |
| letter of dismissal in the days of Moses on | | | | an excuse to rush into the divorce. Some of the |
| account of their hard hearts; not a compliment to | | | | happiest couples I know started out a bit rough |
| their faith or character. The Old Testament even | | | | but worked on their relationship and found they |
| seems to allow a man having multiple wives. Yet, | | | | really did have the love of their life. |
| if you read the Bible, you will see that that | | | | Some couples get along because they share so |
| practice led to nothing but trouble. | | | | many things in common, others because |
| So, what does the Bible say about marriage in the | | | | opposites attract. Neither is necessarily the right |
| New Testament? Here you will find people saying | | | | way to have a marriage. |
| that divorce is not allowed. But that is not entirely | | | | What does matter is that you treat your spouse |
| correct. Divorce is certainly not advised or | | | | with the respect that any other human deserves, |
| permitted out of convenience, but there is | | | | even if it is not returned right away. |
| provision for adultery and abandonment. | | | | Sometimes in a relationship you have to be the |
| Notice, however, that adultery need not demand | | | | first to change. Often, the other person will be |
| a divorce. If you want to save your marriage | | | | almost shamed into changing as well. You see this |
| after infidelity that would certainly be encouraged. | | | | kind of behavior on the school playground, but |
| Also note that no good Christian counselor will | | | | unfortunately it carries over into later life when |
| advise any person to stay in the same household | | | | we are supposed to act like mature adults. |
| as an abusive person. That does not necessarily | | | | Start saving your marriage by simply treating |
| allow divorce, but it certainly allows a person to | | | | your spouse as you would like to be treated |
| escape a dangerous situation. | | | | yourself. The Bible says do unto others as you |
| One of the reasons people rush into divorce is | | | | wish them to do unto you. That does not mean |
| because they rushed into the marriage. Few | | | | just strangers; spouses too. |
| people really take their wedding vows as much | | | | Next is to stop looking for excuses to get a |
| more than a formality, to be forgotten and "put | | | | divorce and look instead for reasons to stay |
| asunder" as soon as they walk out of the church. | | | | married. I guarantee you that every human alive |
| Saving a marriage in crisis is certainly preferable | | | | is capable of seeing what they want to see in a |
| according to the Bible and I suggest doing all you | | | | situation. Do not talk yourself into a big mistake |
| can to do overcome the problems in your | | | | out of frustration or anger. |
| marriage. When children are involved this becomes | | | | |