| p>Do you find yourself talking to your friends | | | | friends husband punches holes in their walls when |
| about your spouse or what's happening in your | | | | he's angry, you view him differently, it's just |
| relationship? Do you ever complain about your | | | | human nature. Only talk about your spouse in a |
| spouse to your friends? We women like to call it | | | | good light, always build them up, don't tear them |
| "venting". What good does it do? Well, as women, | | | | down. |
| we say it just makes us feel better. We need to | | | | 3. Friends like to gossip. You may not care if Susie |
| talk it out. And if your friends agree with you, it | | | | or Joe knows what's happening but chances are |
| does boost the ego and make you feel justified. | | | | they won't keep it to themselves. Their gossip |
| Unfortunately, as good as it makes us feel, there | | | | may affect your life in ways you never |
| are 4 good reasons not to do it: | | | | anticipated. |
| 1. Whatever you talk about you bring about. If | | | | 4. It doesn't improve your situation. Your friends |
| you don't think this is true, try only talking about | | | | may agree with you, which makes you feel |
| positive things for a week and see what happens. | | | | better but it sure doesn't change what's going on. |
| Only talk about the positive aspects of your | | | | It really doesn't matter how many people think |
| spouse or only the nice things they've done for | | | | you're right if your spouse doesn't. Focus on what |
| you. If you can't think of anything positive to say, | | | | will fix the problem, not what will make you feel |
| don't say anything. | | | | better. |
| 2. Your friends will have a negative view of your | | | | If you absolutely have to talk about your |
| spouse. I know your friends have good intentions | | | | problems, find someone who has what you want |
| and they don't think it will affect the way they | | | | and ask them how they do it. You wouldn't ask |
| feel or treat your spouse, but the bottom line is - | | | | someone dying of malnutrition how to eat healthy. |
| it does. When you hear something bad about the | | | | So why would you ask your friends that are in |
| way someone behaves, you may try to give | | | | mediocre marriages how to have a great one? |
| them the benefit of the doubt but realistically, you | | | | Go to someone you feel has a wonderful |
| know what you know. If you know your best | | | | marriage and ask them to help you. |